let’s talk about sex some more

david deida’s book, the way of the superior man, was a real game changer for me.

you can find the book on his website HERE.

one important takeaway from the book, and inspiration for this week’s newsletter, is captured in the title of chapter 41: “turn your lust into gifts”.

the power of sexual energy

sexual energy is one of the most potent forces you possess.

it drives creativity, passion, and connection.

however, when it’s not consciously directed, it can lead to distraction, frustration, and a sense of being out of control.

by learning to harness and direct this energy, you can channel it into areas of your life that need it the most, fueling your ambitions and deepening your relationships.

practical steps to harness and direct your sexual energy:

1. self-awareness and mindfulness: start by becoming aware of your sexual energy and how it manifests in your life by observing your thoughts, feelings and behaviors without judgment.
2. set clear intentions: decide how you want to use your sexual energy. whether it’s enhancing your creativity, improving your physical health, or deepening your relationships, having a clear intention will guide your actions and decisions.
3. practice self-discipline: managing your sexual energy requires discipline. this could mean setting boundaries around certain behaviors (e.g. pornography) or developing new habits that support your goals (e.g. regular physical exercise or meditation to help channel your energy constructively).
4. cultivate meaningful connections: instead of allowing your sexual energy to dissipate through fleeting encounters or distractions, focus on building deep, meaningful connections. this could be with a partner, friends, or even a community that shares your values and goals.
5. engage in creative activities: channel your sexual energy into creative pursuits. whether it’s art, music, writing, or any other form of creative expression, these activities can transform your energy into something tangible and fulfilling.

ACTION ITEM: spend this week being mindful of your sexual energy.

ideally, you can identify some data points and keep a log.

data points might include:

• when do you notice it? what is the situation?
• where do you notice sexual energy in your body?
• what kind of thoughts do you have?
• what feelings do you have?
• what do you do? that is, how do you behave?
• what’s the impact of your behavior?

at the end of the week, consider one of the practical steps listed above and commit to making a positive change, no matter how small.

drive your sexuality

learning to harness your sexual energy is a fundamental step on your masculine journey of self-discovery and growth.

it empowers you to lead your life with purpose and intention, turning a potent force into a driving factor for your holistic well-being and success.

TAKEAWAY: it’s not about suppression but about direction – transform your energy into a source of strength and fulfillment.

have fun,

donald